Our lives are meant to be grasped, lived, and experienced. That experience, though, sometimes comes at a cost. We will lose friends, family, and associates to our choices. 

Does that make us bad? Bad because we choose what is best for us? 

No, we have earned the right to make the choices that are what is best for us. We will only ever get what we deserve if we make the choices that are best for us. No one knows what is best for us, more than we ourselves do.

There is no shame in doing the best for ourselves; then, and only then, do we get what we deserve!